I’ve been asked to post a little update on how things are going since we’ve been home, so here it is!
We are all adjusting to our new life wonderfully. Nathan Bao is one amazing kid and we are head over heels in love with him! He is funny, sweet, joyful, smart, busy, kind, ornery…quite a normal kid who has fit in so well with our family and has taken so many huge changes in stride. On the spectrum of older child adoption, we are about as far to the “good” outcome side as you can get. He has a few regressive emotional behaviors (which is actually a good and healthy thing…he needs to go through these stages that he missed while at the orphanage) but they are minor and will pass quickly. These include tantrums and over reacting to things – reminds you more of a toddler seeking attention when he’s angry or sad or feeling any negative emotions. We just shower him with love and try to discipline him gently and teach him what is expected. Usually the negative emotions and behaviors pass quite quickly and our joyful boy returns. He is still Daddy’s boy but has definitely grown quite attached to Mommy now too. He love his siblings and is especially fond of his big sisters. Nathan is not a picky eater, fortunately. There are very few things he won’t try and even fewer things that he doesn’t like. We’re very grateful that food is not an issue. The language barrier is still there but he is so flexible and easy going about it. I was worried he’d get frustrated but he just gets creative and figures out how to tell us what he wants us to know. And he is super smart and figures out what we want most of the time. The language issue will improve over time. It’s amazing how far he’s already come. I won’t tell you what his favorite English words are or from whom he learned them! ;0) (They’re all G-rated, but not always the nicest way of saying things!) It’s eye-opening when you hear him parrot back a new phrase or word that he learned from one of us!!! It definitely makes us think about what and how we say things a bit more carefully.
We will be moving our oldest daughter to her college dorm in Dallas next weekend. We’re a little worried about how Nathan will do with this separation as he thinks his big sister is wonderful and he like all of us will miss her very much. If you would offer up a prayer for him to be able to accept that transition well (and maybe for her mother too!!!!), we’d greatly appreciate it. He’s been through so much loss already. Hopefully he will be able to see that this is different and that she’s going to be coming back and that love and relationships can stay strong even across the miles.
Here are a few photos of our first few weeks together: